A dictionary of Proverbs (Oxford Paperback Reference)

softly see also FAIR and softly goes far in a day; SPEAK softly and carry a big stick.
What the SOLDIER said isn’t evidence

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  1837 DICKENS Pickwick Papers III. xxxiii. ‘You must not tell us what the soldier.. said, sir,’ interposed the judge; ‘it’s not evidence.’ 1931 ‘v. LODER’ Red Stain xii. ‘It was true!’ . . ‘True to you,.. but you have no means of proving it to us. What the soldier said is not evidence.’ 1971 P. MOYES Season of Snows & Sins ix. ‘There is an English mot about a poilu—no?.. What le poilu say cannot be in Court—is that it?’ Henry grinned. ‘What the soldier said isn’t evidence.’ ■ rumour; soldiers; truth
  

soldier see also the FIRST duty of a soldier is obedience; OLD soldiers never die.
If you’re not part of the SOLUTION, you’re part of the problem
Cleaver’s formulation (see 1968) is the one that has passed into currency, but the idea is found earlier: 1943 Nea Bulletin Dec. 621 (heading) Are we part of the problem or of the answer?

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  1968 E. CLEAVER Speech in R. Scheer, Eldridge Cleaver (1969) 32 What we’re saying today is that you’re either part of the solution or you’re part of the problem. 1975 M. BRADBURY History Man v. ‘If you’re not the solution,’ says Peter Madden, ‘you’re part of the problem.’ ‘It would be terribly arrogant of me to believe I was the solution to anything.’ 1977 C. MCFADDEN Serial xxvi. Listen, don’t you realize if you’re not part of the solution you’re part of the problem. 2001 New Scientist 24 Nov. 112 MTV used to broadcast environmental messages featuring the punchline ‘if you’re not part of the solution, you’re part of the problem’. Indeed. ■ assistance; trouble
  

some see you WIN a few, you lose a few.