HOW TO TURN INSTANT GRATIFICATION TO
YOUR ADVANTAGE
The vital thing in getting a habit to stick is to feel successful—even
if it’s in a small way. The feeling of success is a signal that your
habit paid off and that the work was worth the effort.
In a perfect world, the reward for a good habit is the habit itself.
In the real world, good habits tend to feel worthwhile only after
they have provided you with something. Early on, it’s all sacrifice.
You’ve gone to the gym a few times, but you’re not stronger or
fitter or faster—at least, not in any noticeable sense. It’s only
months later, once you shed a few pounds or your arms gain some
definition, that it becomes easier to exercise for its own sake. In
the beginning, you need a reason to stay on track. This is why
immediate rewards are essential. They keep you excited while the
delayed rewards accumulate in the background.
What we’re really talking about here—when we’re discussing
immediate rewards—is the ending of a behavior. The ending of
any experience is vital because we tend to remember it more than
other phases. You want the ending of your habit to be satisfying.
The best approach is to use
reinforcement
, which refers to the
process of using an immediate reward to increase the rate of a
behavior. Habit stacking, which we covered in Chapter 5, ties your
habit to an immediate cue, which makes it obvious when to start.
Reinforcement ties your habit to an immediate reward, which
makes it satisfying when you finish.
Immediate reinforcement can be especially helpful when
dealing with
habits of avoidance
, which are behaviors you want to
stop doing. It can be challenging to stick with habits like “no
frivolous purchases” or “no alcohol this month” because nothing
happens when you skip happy hour drinks or don’t buy that pair
of shoes. It can be hard to feel satisfied when there is no action in
the first place. All you’re doing is resisting temptation, and there
isn’t much satisfying about that.
One solution is to turn the situation on its head. You want to
make avoidance visible. Open a savings account and label it for
something you want—maybe “Leather Jacket.” Whenever you pass
on a purchase, put the same amount of money in the account. Skip
your morning latte? Transfer $5. Pass on another month of
Netflix? Move $10 over. It’s like creating a loyalty program for
yourself. The immediate reward of seeing yourself save money
toward the leather jacket feels a lot better than being deprived.
You are making it satisfying to do nothing.
One of my readers and his wife used a similar setup. They
wanted to stop eating out so much and start cooking together
more. They labeled their savings account “Trip to Europe.”
Whenever they skipped going out to eat, they transferred $50 into
the account. At the end of the year, they put the money toward the
vacation.
It is worth noting that it is important to select short-term rewards
that reinforce your identity rather than ones that conflict with it.
Buying a new jacket is fine if you’re trying to lose weight or read
more books, but it doesn’t work if you’re trying to budget and save
money. Instead, taking a bubble bath or going on a leisurely walk
are good examples of rewarding yourself with free time, which
aligns with your ultimate goal of more freedom and financial
independence. Similarly, if your reward for exercising is eating a
bowl of ice cream, then you’re casting votes for conflicting identities,
and it ends up being a wash. Instead, maybe your reward is a
massage, which is both a luxury and a vote toward
taking care of your body. Now the short-term reward is aligned
with your long-term vision of being a healthy person.
Eventually, as intrinsic rewards like a better mood, more
energy, and reduced stress kick in, you’ll become less concerned
with chasing the secondary reward. The identity itself becomes the
reinforcer. You do it because it’s who you are and it feels good to
be you. The more a habit becomes part of your life, the less you
need outside encouragement to follow through. Incentives can
start a habit. Identity sustains a habit.
That said, it takes time for the evidence to accumulate and a
new identity to emerge. Immediate reinforcement helps maintain
motivation in the short term while you’re waiting for the long-
term rewards to arrive.
In summary, a habit needs to be enjoyable for it to last. Simple
bits of reinforcement—like soap that smells great or toothpaste
that has a refreshing mint flavor or seeing $50 hit your savings
account—can offer the immediate pleasure you need to enjoy a
habit. And change is easy when it is enjoyable.
Chapter Summary
The 4th Law of Behavior Change is
make it satisfying
.
We are more likely to repeat a behavior when the experience
is satisfying.
The human brain evolved to prioritize immediate rewards
over delayed rewards.
The Cardinal Rule of Behavior Change:
What is
immediately
rewarded is repeated. What is immediately
punished is avoided.
To get a habit to stick you need to feel immediately successful
—even if it’s in a small way.
The first three laws of behavior change—
make it obvious,
make it attractive,
and
make it easy
—increase the odds that
a behavior will be performed this time. The fourth law of
behavior change—
make it satisfying
—increases the odds that
a behavior will be repeated next time.
16
How to Stick with Good Habits Every
Day
I
N 1993
, a bank in Abbotsford, Canada, hired a twenty-three-year-old
stockbroker named Trent Dyrsmid. Abbotsford was a
relatively small suburb, tucked away in the shadow of nearby
Vancouver, where most of the big business deals were being made.
Given the location, and the fact that Dyrsmid was a rookie, nobody
expected too much of him. But he made brisk progress thanks to a
simple daily habit.
Dyrsmid began each morning with two jars on his desk. One
was filled with 120 paper clips. The other was empty. As soon as
he settled in each day, he would make a sales call. Immediately
after, he would move one paper clip from the full jar to the empty
jar and the process would begin again. “Every morning I would
start with 120 paper clips in one jar and I would keep dialing the
phone until I had moved them all to the second jar,” he told me.
Within eighteen months, Dyrsmid was bringing in $5 million to
the firm. By age twenty-four, he was making $75,000 per year—
the equivalent of $125,000 today. Not long after, he landed a six-
figure job with another company.
I like to refer to this technique as the Paper Clip Strategy and,
over the years, I’ve heard from readers who have employed it in a
variety of ways. One woman shifted a hairpin from one container
to another whenever she wrote a page of her book. Another man
moved a marble from one bin to the next after each set of push-
ups.
Making progress is satisfying, and visual measures—like
moving paper clips or hairpins or marbles—provide clear evidence
of your progress. As a result, they reinforce your behavior and add
a little bit of immediate satisfaction to any activity. Visual
measurement comes in many forms: food journals, workout logs,
loyalty punch cards, the progress bar on a software download,
even the page numbers in a book. But perhaps the best way to
measure your progress is with a
habit tracker
.
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