101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think

partner; or worse, you’ll blame them for it and seek out what
they’re lacking and why.
The way this usually manifests is in people being very
indecisive and uncertain about “whether or not they love
someone,” whether or not they should let go or try harder or
wait it out or accept that love isn’t always a fever dream.
I have personally have spent years trying to figure out
whether or not I really loved different people, and about half
that time flip-flopping in and out of relationship(s), only to
eventually figure out that I confused passion for love (and
they aren’t the same thing).

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03. Logic allows you to see objectively; passion is subjective and
consuming.
The thing about the things people are most passionate about
is that it’s a scream that takes all their might and echoes out
into the void. There’s no practice or reason, it’s just a flush of
emotion and when it collides (or contradicts) someone else’s,
it can feel like a personal affront.
No matter how fierce your feeling or belief, it exists next to a
variety of others, not all of which will overlap or align. This
does not mean you or anybody else is wrong, just that
passion does not allow you to acknowledge coexisting truths:
It is singular, and it is destructive when it can’t be placed in
reality.
04. Logic helps you make decisions for the person you hope to
be; passion helps you make decisions for the person you are
or were.
What makes a sense of passion so intense is that, essentially,
it answers a question you didn’t know you were asking. It is a
solution to something you’ve struggled with all along. It is
something that proves a point you didn’t know you had to
make. It is self-evident to you. It is some kind of liberation or
transcendence. Something about it gives you a high, which
means that it’s familiar, and it’s serving as an antidote.
The one true sign that you’re moving ahead with your life is
that you don’t know where you’re going. If you knew what you
were doing, you’d be circling the same path again. The one
true sign that you’re living in the past is if you feel that
reckless “high.” (You’re proving something to someone or to
yourself.)
05. The passion narrative says you should strive for a life that
maxes out your wildest dreams; the logic narrative says you
should strive for a life that maxes out your potential.
The passion narrative, therefore, keeps you in a place of
assuming your life is “less than” because you’re not doing
what you think is ideal. The logic narrative, however, tells you
to evaluate why you want those things and eventually brings

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you to the conclusion that most of the time, you don’t. Rather
than maxing out your dreams, logic tells you to max out your
potential, which ultimately gets you to the same place that
passion could only have you (keep) dreaming of.
06. Passion is born of attachment; logic counteracts it.
Passion is an attachment to an idea, or more often, a