101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think

Psychological Trauma: Theory, Research, Practice, and Policy. 
2014. American
Psychological Association. 
http://www.apa.org/pubs/journals/tra/index.aspx
8 Adams, William Lee. “The dark side of creativity: Depression + anxiety x madness =
genius?” CNN. 2014.
9 Lee, Leonard; Stephen, Andrew; Pham, Michel. “The Emotional Oracle Effect.” 
Journal of
Consumer Research
. 2012. https://www8.gsb.columbia.edu/newsroom/newsn/1957/the-
emotional-oracle-effect
10 Brown, Brené. 
Daring Greatly: How the Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way
We Live, Love, Parent and Lead
. 2015. Avery.

---

19
THE LITTLE THINGS 
you don’t realize 
ARE AFFECTING 
how you feel
ABOUT YOUR BODY
01. How your parents felt about their bodies, and what they said
about them—and others—even when you were little or they
didn’t think you were listening. So goes my favorite saying:
“The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice.”
02. Photoshop so good you don’t even realize there’s Photoshop
(and so your perception of “normal” is totally skewed).
03. The attitudes of the first people you dated/were intimate with,
and whether or not they appreciated your body for the
completely awesome thing it was (and is). For whatever
reason, people’s body hang-ups can often be traced back to
those initial experiences, especially if they were negative.
04. How you judge other people. What you first reach to insult
someone with—especially when it’s physical—says infinitely
more of you than them.
05. The way your friends treat their bodies and behave. In this
case, it’s less about what they say to you or about
themselves, and much more what you pick up on through
their actions. We begin to subconsciously adopt the collective
mindset of the group of people we hang out with most.
06. What media you consume. The books and magazines you
read, websites you visit, TV shows you binge-watch all
combine to create your concept of what’s “normal” and what’s
“ideal,” and you usually derive these ideas from the
characters you identify with most.

---

07. Your heritage and your hometown. Food is such an integral